Pensions on Divorce
Mediate UK's pension mediation service is for separating couples who need to divide one or more pensions, including workplace, private, final salary and public sector schemes. You can deal with the pensions on their own or as part of your wider financial settlement. Our mediators are members of the Family Mediation Council, and most couples agree within two to four sessions. Resolve the pensions fairly and stay in control of the decisions.
- Value the pensions properly, including final salary and public sector schemes
- Agree a pension sharing order, offsetting, or a mix of the two
- Ends in a legally binding consent order, approved by a judge
Contested financial proceedings take around a year and usually involve three separate court hearings. Contested proceedings can cost £30,000 plus VAT or more each, according to MoneyHelper, paid out of the very pot you are trying to divide. At the end of it, a judge who has never met your family applies the law and makes an order you both have to live with.
You are expected to try to settle first, too. Attending a MIAM is compulsory before most court applications, but now you also have to tell the judge on a Form FM5 what you have done to resolve matters away from court. Since April 2024, refusing to consider mediation, without good reason, can affect who pays the legal costs.
What mediation gives you instead of court
- Most cases settle in weeks, not more than a year
- You keep significantly more of the money you are dividing in the family pot
- 90% of couples who attend joint mediation reach agreement*
- Arrangements shaped around your situation, not a court order
- Fixed fee legal packages once you have agreed, to make your agreement legally binding
Why choose mediation to sort out pensions?
Confidential and without prejudice
Weeks or months, not years
A fraction of the cost of court
You keep control of the outcome
Accredited, insured and regulated
It can end with something legally binding
One fixed fee, all the way to a court order
What can you sort out in pension mediation?
Every pension either of you holds forms part of the financial picture, whoever paid into it. In mediation you can agree:
- What each pension is really worth: the transfer value, and whether that figure fairly reflects a final salary or public sector scheme
- Pension sharing: splitting one or more pensions by a percentage, so each of you ends up with a pension in your own name
- Offsetting: one of you keeps the pension and the other takes more of the house or savings instead
- Which pensions to share: whether to split one large scheme or several smaller ones
- Final salary and public sector schemes: NHS, teachers, armed forces, police, civil service and local government pensions, where the transfer value often understates the true benefit
- Whether you need an expert report: when a pension expert’s report is worth the cost, and how you instruct one together
- Equal capital or equal income: whether you share the value equally, or aim for a similar pension income in retirement
- Pensions built up before the marriage: what was earned before you met, or after you separated, and how that is treated
- The state pension: what each of you is on track to receive, and how that affects what is fair
- Timing and charges: when a share takes effect, and the charge the scheme makes for putting it in place
How does the Mediation Process Work?
Your MIAM
Financial disclosure
Joint sessions
Your written outcome
Make it legally binding
Start sorting out your pensions
Book your MIAM online in a few minutes, at a time that suits you. If mediation is suitable, we will invite the other party afterwards. You do not need your transfer values ready to start.
Do we have to be in the same room?
No. 95% of our mediation sessions happen online, and where being in the same space would be too difficult, we use shuttle mediation, where you stay in separate rooms and the mediator moves between you.
You join from home by video, so there is no travel, no waiting room, and no chance of arriving awkwardly at the same time. Shuttle mediation goes further. You are in separate rooms, or on separate calls, and your mediator carries the questions, offers and replies between you. The hourly rate is the same, though a shuttle session usually runs to two hours rather than 90 minutes, because everything has to be relayed twice.
That is why we suggest a joint session first where it is safe and comfortable to do so, as it is usually quicker and costs less. Your mediator will talk this through with you at your MIAM, and you decide together which format suits you, so nothing is arranged without your agreement.
How much does pension mediation cost?
Free
We are a Legal Aid Agency contracted provider, so we can check and process this for you.
If you are eligible, the other party has their MIAM and first joint session covered under legal aid as well.
from £1,649 +VAT
It covers your MIAM, up to 4 hours of joint mediation, your financial statement, your memorandum of understanding, solicitor drafting of the consent order and the solicitor dealing with the court on your behalf.
You know the full cost before you start, whatever your case turns out to need.
£120 +VAT
The average cost of financial mediation is £655 plus VAT, covering three 90-minute sessions and your MIAM.
Legal paperwork is charged at an additional fee.
All members of the Family Mediation Council
What clients say about working with us
“Very helpful and efficient service. Easy to book a value for money phone consultation in which my options were fully explored and explained. Lots to take in especially on pensions so a follow up email with links and guides was perfect. Thank you.”
“We felt grateful that our mediator Rachel was able to offer well balanced support of us both. She provided a realistic and tactful approach while she explained the necessary steps a divorce entails. This somehow made things less complex and overwhelming, particularly in financial terms.”
“The follow up email was prompt and provided valuable information on different processes of negotiating to settle financial issues and a chart of the process. Thank you for great help with a difficult process.”
Pensions on divorce: common questions
There are three ways, and most cases use one or a mix of the first two. A pension sharing order splits a percentage of one person’s pension into a pension in the other person’s name, giving you both a clean break. Offsetting means one of you keeps the pension in full and the other takes more of the house or savings instead.
Pension attachment, sometimes called earmarking, gives one person a share of the other’s pension income when they retire, but it is now rare because it leaves you financially tied together. Every pension either of you holds goes into the picture, whoever paid into it and whoever’s name is on it.
No, there is no automatic right to half. Equal sharing is a starting point for the marital pot as a whole, not a rule applied to each pension. What matters is what is fair overall, judged on the length of the marriage, what each of you needs in retirement, and the needs of any children.
A short marriage where you each have your own pension may end with no sharing at all. A long marriage where one of you built a pension while the other raised the family may end with a substantial share, or even more than half if that is what is needed to give you both a reasonable income.
A pension sharing order is a court order that transfers a set percentage of one person’s pension to the other. The person receiving the share ends up with a pension of their own, either inside the same scheme or transferred to a scheme of their choice, depending on the rules. It gives you a clean break, so neither of you depends on the other’s retirement decisions. Pension sharing is only available on divorce or dissolution of a civil partnership. It is not available to unmarried couples, and it cannot be done on judicial separation.
Yes, and this is a common outcome, particularly where one of you needs the home now more than a pension later. It is known as offsetting. The important point is that pension money and cash are not worth the same to you. A pension cannot usually be touched until 55, rising to 57 from April 2028, most of it is taxed when you draw it, and its future value is uncertain. A PODE report can help you work out a fair offset value.
So the figures are rarely swapped pound for pound, and a discount is normally applied to the pension value. Your mediator will help you both look at what you each need now and in retirement before deciding whether offsetting is the right approach.
Ask each provider for a cash equivalent value. Most schemes give you one free of charge each year, and you can usually request it online or by phone. Private and workplace schemes often reply within a few weeks. Public sector schemes can take considerably longer, so it is worth requesting these as early as possible. For the state pension, you can get a forecast at gov.uk. Bring the figures to mediation and your mediator will help you both make sense of them.
Not always. Many couples with straightforward workplace or private pensions can agree a fair split from the transfer values alone. An expert report is worth considering where there is a final salary or public sector scheme, where the pensions are large, where you want to share the pensions so you each end up with a similar income in retirement, or where a significant part of a pension was built up before the marriage.
A report costs between £1,000 and £5,000, depending on how complex the case is and whether a pensions on divorce expert or an actuary is used. In mediation you instruct one expert jointly, so you share the cost rather than each paying for your own.
They can be treated differently, although the line is rarely clean. Pension built up before the marriage or after separation may be argued to sit outside the marital pot, which reduces the amount to be shared. How much is set aside depends on the length of the marriage and the size of the pensions, and the calculation can be done roughly on a time basis or properly by an expert.
The important qualification is that needs come first. If the marital share alone does not give you both a reasonable income in retirement, some of the pre-marital value can still be drawn on.
Yes, and this is one of the areas where it pays to take care. Public sector schemes are defined benefit, which means they promise you an income for life rather than holding a pot of money. The transfer value they provide often understates what the pension is actually worth to the member, so treating that figure as if it were cash may produce an unfair result.
Sharing is still perfectly possible, but this is the situation where a pension expert’s report most often earns its cost. The same applies to most private sector final salary schemes.
The basic and new state pension cannot be shared. However, additional state pension built up before April 2016, sometimes called SERPS or S2P, can be shared by a pension sharing order, as can any protected payment element of the new state pension. Even where nothing can be shared, both of your state pension forecasts are still worth putting on the table, because what each of you will receive, and any gaps in your National Insurance record, affect what a fair overall settlement looks like.
Longer than most people expect, so it helps to plan for it. A pension sharing order cannot take effect until the divorce or dissolution is final and the consent order has been sealed by the court. Once the scheme has the sealed order and everything it needs, it has four months to implement the share. Most schemes charge a fee for doing this, which varies considerably between providers, so it is worth asking yours what it charges and agreeing between you who pays it.
Ready to sort out your pensions?
Most couples have their finances agreed within a few months, for a fraction of what court would cost. Book your MIAM to get started, or take a free 15-minute call first if you would rather talk it through.
Need something specific? Book an urgent MIAM, check your legal aid eligibility, or call us on 0330 999 0959.