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Pensions on Divorce

Mediate UK's pension mediation service is for separating couples who need to divide one or more pensions, including workplace, private, final salary and public sector schemes. You can deal with the pensions on their own or as part of your wider financial settlement. Our mediators are members of the Family Mediation Council, and most couples agree within two to four sessions. Resolve the pensions fairly and stay in control of the decisions.

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15 YEARS OF TRUST Of clients reached a full or partial agreement in 2025
  • Value the pensions properly, including final salary and public sector schemes
  • Agree a pension sharing order, offsetting, or a mix of the two
  • Ends in a legally binding consent order, approved by a judge
Not sure where to start? The 15-minute call is free, with no obligation.

Contested financial proceedings take around a year and usually involve three separate court hearings. Contested proceedings can cost £30,000 plus VAT or more each, according to MoneyHelper, paid out of the very pot you are trying to divide. At the end of it, a judge who has never met your family applies the law and makes an order you both have to live with.

You are expected to try to settle first, too. Attending a MIAM is compulsory before most court applications, but now you also have to tell the judge on a Form FM5 what you have done to resolve matters away from court. Since April 2024, refusing to consider mediation, without good reason, can affect who pays the legal costs.

What mediation gives you instead of court

  • Most cases settle in weeks, not more than a year
  • You keep significantly more of the money you are dividing in the family pot
  • 90% of couples who attend joint mediation reach agreement*
  • Arrangements shaped around your situation, not a court order
  • Fixed fee legal packages once you have agreed, to make your agreement legally binding
*Measured across all Mediate UK joint mediation cases in 2025, counting clients who reached full or partial agreement on the issues they brought to mediation.

Why choose mediation to sort out pensions?

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Confidential and without prejudice

Nothing said in mediation can be repeated in court. Financial proposals are made without prejudice, so you can safely test or discuss an idea without being held to it later. Only your financial disclosure is open, which means it can be shown to the court.
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Weeks or months, not years

Most financial cases settle in two to four joint sessions, usually across six to twelve weeks. Family courts are fighting a backlog that means cases are taking on average more than a year for the three hearings required for a final order.
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A fraction of the cost of court

Mediation is charged per person, per hour, so you only pay for the time you use. Contested financial proceedings can cost each person many thousands of pounds in legal fees before a judge has decided anything.
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You keep control of the outcome

In mediation, you and your ex-partner make the decisions. In court, a judge who has never met your family makes them for you, within a range you cannot predict. They have less discretion for arrangements than what you can agree between you.
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Accredited, insured and regulated

Every Mediate UK mediator is a member of the Family Mediation Council. Mediate UK holds a Legal Aid Agency contract, so clients who qualify pay nothing at all. We are a fully insured, regulated and multi award-winning mediation service.
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It can end with something legally binding

Mediation produces an open financial statement and a memorandum of understanding. These can be converted into a legally binding consent order, which a judge approves. We offer these for a fixed fee.

One fixed fee, all the way to a court order

Our fixed fee consent order package takes you from your first meeting to a legally binding court order. It covers your MIAM, full financial disclosure, an Open Financial Statement, up to 4 hours of joint mediation, your memorandum of understanding, and an SRA-regulated family solicitor to draft the order, complete your Form A and D81, and file it at court for you. From £1,649 plus VAT per person, less whatever you have already paid for your mediation fees. Court fees and ID checks are the only extras.
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What can you sort out in pension mediation?

Every pension either of you holds forms part of the financial picture, whoever paid into it. In mediation you can agree:

  • What each pension is really worth: the transfer value, and whether that figure fairly reflects a final salary or public sector scheme
  • Pension sharing: splitting one or more pensions by a percentage, so each of you ends up with a pension in your own name
  • Offsetting: one of you keeps the pension and the other takes more of the house or savings instead
  • Which pensions to share: whether to split one large scheme or several smaller ones
  • Final salary and public sector schemes: NHS, teachers, armed forces, police, civil service and local government pensions, where the transfer value often understates the true benefit
  • Whether you need an expert report: when a pension expert’s report is worth the cost, and how you instruct one together
  • Equal capital or equal income: whether you share the value equally, or aim for a similar pension income in retirement
  • Pensions built up before the marriage: what was earned before you met, or after you separated, and how that is treated
  • The state pension: what each of you is on track to receive, and how that affects what is fair
  • Timing and charges: when a share takes effect, and the charge the scheme makes for putting it in place

How does the Mediation Process Work?

The process is straightforward and moves at a pace that suits you. Here is what happens, step by step.
1

Your MIAM

You each attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting, separately and confidentially. Your mediator explains your options, checks that mediation is safe and suitable, and answers your questions.
2

Financial disclosure

Both of you complete full financial disclosure. This can be done on our own forms or a Form E. For pensions this means a current transfer value for every scheme, which you can request free of charge from each provider. Disclosure is open, not confidential, and neither of you can negotiate properly without it. We then produce an Open Financial Statement (OFS).
3

Joint sessions

You meet together with your mediator, usually online. You agree the disclosure, the division of assets and finally if any ongoing payments are needed. Sessions usually last 90 minutes. Most couples need two to four. Legal advice can be helpful.
4

Your written outcome

Your mediator writes up a memorandum of understanding, which sets out what you have agreed and why. You can get legal advice again at this stage.
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Make it legally binding

A solicitor or paralegal drafts your agreement into a consent order and files it at court with a Form D81. A judge reviews it and, if it is fair, approves it. Mediate UK can handle this whole stage for you at a fixed fee.

Start sorting out your pensions

Book your MIAM online in a few minutes, at a time that suits you. If mediation is suitable, we will invite the other party afterwards. You do not need your transfer values ready to start.

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Do we have to be in the same room?

No. 95% of our mediation sessions happen online, and where being in the same space would be too difficult, we use shuttle mediation, where you stay in separate rooms and the mediator moves between you.

You join from home by video, so there is no travel, no waiting room, and no chance of arriving awkwardly at the same time. Shuttle mediation goes further. You are in separate rooms, or on separate calls, and your mediator carries the questions, offers and replies between you. The hourly rate is the same, though a shuttle session usually runs to two hours rather than 90 minutes, because everything has to be relayed twice.

That is why we suggest a joint session first where it is safe and comfortable to do so, as it is usually quicker and costs less. Your mediator will talk this through with you at your MIAM, and you decide together which format suits you, so nothing is arranged without your agreement.

How much does pension mediation cost?

Mediate UK charges per person, per hour, so a couple splits the cost of every session. There are usually three ways to pay.
Option 1 – Legal Aid

Free

with Legal Aid
If you qualify for legal aid, your MIAM and your mediation sessions are completely free.

We are a Legal Aid Agency contracted provider, so we can check and process this for you.

If you are eligible, the other party has their MIAM and first joint session covered under legal aid as well.
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Option 2 – Fixed Fee
No hidden fees

from £1,649 +VAT

per person, paid in instalments
A fixed fee package that takes you from your first MIAM through to a legally binding court order.

It covers your MIAM, up to 4 hours of joint mediation, your financial statement, your memorandum of understanding, solicitor drafting of the consent order and the solicitor dealing with the court on your behalf.

You know the full cost before you start, whatever your case turns out to need.
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Option 3 – Pay as you Go

£120 +VAT

per person, per hour, online
Most parties pay individually for their mediation, with a session lasting 90 minutes.

The average cost of financial mediation is £655 plus VAT, covering three 90-minute sessions and your MIAM.

Legal paperwork is charged at an additional fee.
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All members of the Family Mediation Council

You will be guided by an experienced, fully trained mediator who specialises in financial arrangements. Every mediator at Mediate UK is a member of the Family Mediation Council.
Mitchell Robertson WTA Headshot Mediator Mediate UK
Mitchell Robertson
WTA
Mitchell is a trained family mediator working towards accreditation, bringing valuable experience from his financial background where negotiation and collaboration were at the heart of his work. As a derivatives broker and later as a business analyst with a software provider, Mitchell developed his skills in bringing parties with different interests and resources together to find common ground and reach mutually beneficial agreements. Having experienced divorce firsthand, Mitchell discovered how empowering and productive mediation can be in resolving difficult separations. This personal insight, combined with his professional expertise, inspired him to retrain as a mediator. He is passionate about helping others work through their own separations constructively, whilst avoiding the stress and expense of lengthy court proceedings. Mitchell’s blend of financial acumen, negotiation skills, and personal understanding enables him to support clients with both empathy and practical insight.
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Mitchell Robertson
Trained Family Mediator
WTA
Mitchell is a trained family mediator working towards accreditation, bringing valuable experience from his financial background where negotiation and collaboration were at the heart of his work. As a derivatives broker and later as a business analyst with a software provider, Mitchell developed his skills in bringing parties with different interests and resources together to find common ground and reach mutually beneficial agreements. Having experienced divorce firsthand, Mitchell discovered how empowering and productive mediation can be in resolving difficult separations. This personal insight, combined with his professional expertise, inspired him to retrain as a mediator. He is passionate about helping others work through their own separations constructively, whilst avoiding the stress and expense of lengthy court proceedings. Mitchell’s blend of financial acumen, negotiation skills, and personal understanding enables him to support clients with both empathy and practical insight.
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Kate Miller
FMCA
Kate is an accredited family mediator with a strong legal background and extensive experience in mental health support. She holds a law degree and a master’s in International Human Rights Law and has worked for several years as both a paralegal and supervising paralegal. Kate has supported individuals through Citizens Advice and a Family Law Clinic, where she helped clients though complex personal and legal challenges. She is also a qualified Mental Health First Aider and is involved on a peer-led mental health support group dedicated to creating inclusive and supportive environments. Kate’s combination of legal expertise and understanding of mental health enables her to approach mediation with both practical insight and emotional awareness. She is committed to helping families resolve conflict constructively, ensuring that clients feel supported and respected as they work towards fair solutions during separation.
Kate is an accredited family mediator with a strong legal background and extensive experience in mental health support. She holds a law degree and a master’s in International Human Rights Law and has worked for several years as both a paralegal and supervising paralegal. Kate has supported individuals through Citizens Advice and a Family Law Clinic, where she helped clients though complex personal and legal challenges. She is also a qualified Mental Health First Aider and is involved on a peer-led mental health support group dedicated to creating inclusive and supportive environments. Kate’s combination of legal expertise and understanding of mental health enables her to approach mediation with both practical insight and emotional awareness. She is committed to helping families resolve conflict constructively, ensuring that clients feel supported and respected as they work towards fair solutions during separation.
Rachel, Mediate UK team member
Rachel Poole
PPC, FMCA, CIM
Rachel is a highly skilled accredited family and child-inclusive mediator with extensive experience in complex financial cases, drawing on her career in the City’s finance sector. Her calm, balanced approach helps clients feel supported and understood throughout the mediation process. As a qualified child-inclusive mediator, Rachel can, where appropriate and with parental agreement, offer children a safe and supported space to express their thoughts and feelings as part of the process. Rachel is also a Professional Practice Consultant (PPC), a role that recognises her expertise and experience. As a PPC, she provides mentorship, guidance, and supervision to both newly qualified and accredited mediators, helping to develop the next generation of practitioners.
Rachel, Mediate UK team member
Rachel Poole
Accredited Family Mediator
PPC, FMCA, CIM
Rachel is a highly skilled accredited family and child-inclusive mediator with extensive experience in complex financial cases, drawing on her career in the City’s finance sector. Her calm, balanced approach helps clients feel supported and understood throughout the mediation process. As a qualified child-inclusive mediator, Rachel can, where appropriate and with parental agreement, offer children a safe and supported space to express their thoughts and feelings as part of the process. Rachel is also a Professional Practice Consultant (PPC), a role that recognises her expertise and experience. As a PPC, she provides mentorship, guidance, and supervision to both newly qualified and accredited mediators, helping to develop the next generation of practitioners.
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What clients say about working with us

Rated 4.8 out of 5 from 715+ reviews. Here are a few words from clients we have helped.

“Very helpful and efficient service. Easy to book a value for money phone consultation in which my options were fully explored and explained. Lots to take in especially on pensions so a follow up email with links and guides was perfect. Thank you.”

Anonymous – Reviews.co.uk Financial mediation (pensions)

“We felt grateful that our mediator Rachel was able to offer well balanced support of us both. She provided a realistic and tactful approach while she explained the necessary steps a divorce entails. This somehow made things less complex and overwhelming, particularly in financial terms.”

Cath – Reviews.co.uk Financial mediation (pensions)

“The follow up email was prompt and provided valuable information on different processes of negotiating to settle financial issues and a chart of the process. Thank you for great help with a difficult process.”

Nahid T – Reviews.co.uk Financial mediation (pensions)

Pensions on divorce: common questions

There are three ways, and most cases use one or a mix of the first two. A pension sharing order splits a percentage of one person’s pension into a pension in the other person’s name, giving you both a clean break. Offsetting means one of you keeps the pension in full and the other takes more of the house or savings instead.

Pension attachment, sometimes called earmarking, gives one person a share of the other’s pension income when they retire, but it is now rare because it leaves you financially tied together. Every pension either of you holds goes into the picture, whoever paid into it and whoever’s name is on it.

No, there is no automatic right to half. Equal sharing is a starting point for the marital pot as a whole, not a rule applied to each pension. What matters is what is fair overall, judged on the length of the marriage, what each of you needs in retirement, and the needs of any children.

A short marriage where you each have your own pension may end with no sharing at all. A long marriage where one of you built a pension while the other raised the family may end with a substantial share, or even more than half if that is what is needed to give you both a reasonable income.

A pension sharing order is a court order that transfers a set percentage of one person’s pension to the other. The person receiving the share ends up with a pension of their own, either inside the same scheme or transferred to a scheme of their choice, depending on the rules. It gives you a clean break, so neither of you depends on the other’s retirement decisions. Pension sharing is only available on divorce or dissolution of a civil partnership. It is not available to unmarried couples, and it cannot be done on judicial separation.

Yes, and this is a common outcome, particularly where one of you needs the home now more than a pension later. It is known as offsetting. The important point is that pension money and cash are not worth the same to you. A pension cannot usually be touched until 55, rising to 57 from April 2028, most of it is taxed when you draw it, and its future value is uncertain. A PODE report can help you work out a fair offset value.

So the figures are rarely swapped pound for pound, and a discount is normally applied to the pension value. Your mediator will help you both look at what you each need now and in retirement before deciding whether offsetting is the right approach.

Ask each provider for a cash equivalent value. Most schemes give you one free of charge each year, and you can usually request it online or by phone. Private and workplace schemes often reply within a few weeks. Public sector schemes can take considerably longer, so it is worth requesting these as early as possible. For the state pension, you can get a forecast at gov.uk. Bring the figures to mediation and your mediator will help you both make sense of them.

Not always. Many couples with straightforward workplace or private pensions can agree a fair split from the transfer values alone. An expert report is worth considering where there is a final salary or public sector scheme, where the pensions are large, where you want to share the pensions so you each end up with a similar income in retirement, or where a significant part of a pension was built up before the marriage.

A report costs between £1,000 and £5,000, depending on how complex the case is and whether a pensions on divorce expert or an actuary is used. In mediation you instruct one expert jointly, so you share the cost rather than each paying for your own.

They can be treated differently, although the line is rarely clean. Pension built up before the marriage or after separation may be argued to sit outside the marital pot, which reduces the amount to be shared. How much is set aside depends on the length of the marriage and the size of the pensions, and the calculation can be done roughly on a time basis or properly by an expert.

The important qualification is that needs come first. If the marital share alone does not give you both a reasonable income in retirement, some of the pre-marital value can still be drawn on.

Yes, and this is one of the areas where it pays to take care. Public sector schemes are defined benefit, which means they promise you an income for life rather than holding a pot of money. The transfer value they provide often understates what the pension is actually worth to the member, so treating that figure as if it were cash may produce an unfair result.

Sharing is still perfectly possible, but this is the situation where a pension expert’s report most often earns its cost. The same applies to most private sector final salary schemes.

The basic and new state pension cannot be shared. However, additional state pension built up before April 2016, sometimes called SERPS or S2P, can be shared by a pension sharing order, as can any protected payment element of the new state pension. Even where nothing can be shared, both of your state pension forecasts are still worth putting on the table, because what each of you will receive, and any gaps in your National Insurance record, affect what a fair overall settlement looks like.

Longer than most people expect, so it helps to plan for it. A pension sharing order cannot take effect until the divorce or dissolution is final and the consent order has been sealed by the court. Once the scheme has the sealed order and everything it needs, it has four months to implement the share. Most schemes charge a fee for doing this, which varies considerably between providers, so it is worth asking yours what it charges and agreeing between you who pays it.

Ready to sort out your pensions?

Most couples have their finances agreed within a few months, for a fraction of what court would cost. Book your MIAM to get started, or take a free 15-minute call first if you would rather talk it through.

Need something specific? Book an urgent MIAM, check your legal aid eligibility, or call us on 0330 999 0959.

Contact us to find out more about why mediation can help your case. 0330 999 0959 or email admin@mediateuk.co.uk.
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