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5 Things Everyone Gets Wrong About Mediation

5 Things Everyone Gets Wrong About Mediation

5 things people get wrong about mediation

Welcome, to another edition of our Family Mediation blog! Today, we are hoping to shed some light on the often-misunderstood world of family mediation. From imaginary wrestling matches to magical fixes, we hope to bring a smile to your face while enlightening you about the reality of family mediation. Get ready to chuckle as we unpack the 5 Things Everyone Gets Wrong About Mediation.

Before we dive in, we would like to make it crystal clear, that while we’ve injected a touch of humour to engage and uplift, we genuinely recognise that the challenges families face during mediation are not a laughing matter and we will approach your case with the utmost sensitivity and compassion.

We are hoping to illustrate that by managing expectations and embracing the true purpose of Family Mediation, all parties involved can benefit greatly, paving the way for a smoother path towards resolution for everyone.

Now grab your popcorn, ‘cos here we go.

1) Family Mediation is a Battle, and the Mediator is the Referee

Contrary to popular belief, family mediation isn’t a wrestling match with the mediator as the referee. There are no flying chairs or ropes to hold on to. While we appreciate the imagination, family mediation is actually a peaceful process where the mediator plays the role of a skilled facilitator, not a wrestling superstar. No smackdowns here – just a calm and controlled environment to resolve conflicts that naturally arise as part of a divorce or separation.

2) Family Mediation is Only for Superheroes or Zen Masters

No capes or secret martial arts skills required! Family mediation is for everyone. It’s a practical option for any separating couple facing disputes, however big or small. We mediate for humans like you and me, complete with everyday struggles and quirks. So, leave your cape at the door and come as you are!

Let’s face it, going through a divorce or separation is already as tough as trying to assemble IKEA furniture without the instructions, so why not let a neutral third party take the reins and make this ride a little less bumpy?

3) Family Mediation is a Magic Wand that Instantly Fixes Everything

Ah, if only family mediation came with a magical spell to wave away all problems. Unfortunately, the reality is a bit different. Family mediation is a process that encourages open communication, negotiation, and compromise. It’s not a quick-fix solution or an enchanted potion. However, through active participation and the guidance of a skilled family mediator, you’ll be amazed at how it can help you both reach a fair and sustainable agreement.

4) Family Mediation is a One-Size-Fits-All Approach

Forget the notion that family mediation is a cookie-cutter solution, folks. It’s more like a tailored suit – customised to fit your unique situation. Every family is different, with their own dynamics and complexities. A skilled family mediator will adapt their approach to address your specific situation.

5) Family Mediation is a Weak Alternative to Going to Court

Some might think that choosing family mediation means surrendering their rights or admitting defeat. But hold your horses! Family mediation is actually an empowered and proactive choice.

Family courts are busier than a beehive during honey season and let’s be honest, they don’t want you barging in unless you absolutely have to, so do them a solid favour and give family mediation a shot – it’s like the court’s secret handshake for preferred dispute resolution!

True or False – Mediation is Legally binding.

False – It is important to understand that family mediation is not legally binding, meaning the decisions reached during mediation are not enforceable by law unless they are incorporated into a legally binding agreement or court order.  However, we can help you make your agreement legally binding through one of our fixed-fee legal packages. Yes, that’s right! A court is more likely to agree with a settlement that has been decided through family mediation. Click here to find out how to make your agreement legally binding.

While family mediators possess a wealth of legal knowledge and a deep understanding of what the courts would expect you to have considered, it’s crucial to remember that they are not solicitors, so they won’t be donning a powdered wig and hammering out legal advice. But fear not, they will expertly navigate you through the maze of options, allowing them to provide valuable insights and guidance as you mediate toward a well-informed and fair resolution.

On a Serious Note

Man and Woman in joint MediationLightheartedness aside, now that we have explored some of the common misconceptions about family mediation, let’s shift gears and conclude on a more sollumn note. Family mediation is an invaluable tool for families facing conflicts and it’s essential to understand its true nature. This process provides participants with the flexibility to explore options and make informed choices.

It provides a safe and neutral space where open dialogue, active listening and empathy can thrive. It allows individuals to express their concerns and discuss their needs while seeking mutually acceptable solutions. By promoting effective communication, family mediation helps families maintain relationships, preserve their well-being, and avoid the emotional toll of lengthy court battles.

Divorce or separation is challenging, and adding the complexities of property division, financial matters, and child arrangements can be overwhelming; that’s where family mediation shines, relieving you from the burden of figuring it all out alone and allowing mediation to do what it does best – guide you towards a mutually beneficial solution with compassion and expertise.


Choosing family mediation doesn’t mean disregarding your rights or compromising your interests. On the contrary, it offer you the platform to actively participate in the decision-making process and shape outcomes that are tailored to your unique circumstances.

At Mediate UK, we understand the importance of approaching each case with empathy, respect, and professionalism. Our family mediators are trained to guide you through the process, ensuring that all parties are heard and understood. While we have embraced humour today to lighten the mood, we reassure you that we are dedicated to the serious work of helping families find peaceful resolutions in this difficult time in their lives.

So, if you find yourself facing disputes as you navigate the ups and down of your separation, remember that family mediation is a viable option – a bridge towards understanding and harmony. Don’t let misconceptions deter you from exploring this invaluable resource, one that encourages cooperation and long-lasting agreements that can be adapted as life evolves.

Reach out to an award-winning family mediation firm and take the first step towards Finding your Future.

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